I’m not sure the greatest way to type out my dilemma but I hope you guys understand && can help me.
I’m a 21 y.o nursing student and my boyfriend of two years is a 22 y.o civil engineer student at one of the best colleges in Boston. We met through a mutual friend, who in my parents eyes is no longer a good influence on my life since he “hooked” us up if you will. My boyfriend is from all over the east coast, because he moved alot in his earlier life because of his parents relationship instability and their eager search to find love in every other man and woman in the world. I on the other hand have lived in one place my whole life with two hard-working parents and one sibling. I understand that you must work hard for things in life and go out and grab every opportunity there is, my boyfriend is so used to his parents handing him things because that’s how they kept him quiet while truly destroying his childhood.
We’re both a year away from graduating college && we’ve been discussing more seriously the plans that are coming, I want to move away from my home state for a while && see the world and he believes this would be a great idea. Meanwhile, my parents who have been such a huge inspiration on my life believe that this is a terrible idea and that he is brain washing me to be the bread winner so he can sit at home and do nothing. I’ve worked two jobs since I was 16 and at a young age understood the value of a dollar && the work that must be put in for that dollar. My boyfriend meanwhile believes life comes as it is, that opportunities will arise && if he’s on that boat he is, but if he isn’t then that’s okay too it’ll work out for him. My parents think this is irresponsible and a wreck less idea. I was once very close to them, but they’ve become openly angry about it and are continuously saying little things to make me feel bad about my decisions. I feel as if at 21 I have my head on tight && I’ve become a great young lady- but they think I’m being ridiculous when I think that this could be true love. In two years I have seen no major red flags to turn me away, my best friends feel as if this is healthy and a strong hold on both parts, we complement each other, and balance each other out. My parents will do anything to keep us apart, and it’s taking a major toll on my life because I see my boyfriend family love who I am and look forward to the future. I would be surprised if my parents even attended my wedding at this rate. It saddens me that it’s coming to this, but I believe deep down I am an adult now, my parents have helped me with the building blocks of life and they can only trust they’ve taught me what I need to know.
On a side note, I am their only child to go to college, get out of my hometown, and of ambitions of leaving “home” to travel.
Someone, pleaseeeee leave me some advice I’d appreciate it so much.
no one has to like your man but you, they don’t have to sleep w/him only you do. you are grown. .
Well to me you seem to be on the right track and have a good head on your shoulders. . I think your parents should be a Little more reasonable and let you make your own decisions considering you are grown now. . but just tell them to trust you. . but once again they have no say in who you date because you are old enough to choose and they need to respect and support no matter how much they hate it. . but good luck